My Self Care Routine as a Mum of Two

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My Self Care Routine

As A Mum of Two

We all know how important self care is. We all know that we can’t give fully unless our own cup is full. But when we’ve got little ones to look after it becomes so hard to find the time or effort to look after ourselves.

And that’s a problem. As mums it’s crucial that we take time to look after ourselves.

I know that I can parent better when I’m looking after myself too. I know I’m more present and less reactive when I practice self care regularly.

Most importantly, I feel happier when I find time for self care.

Whether you’ve got one child, a huge brood, or fall anywhere in between it can be easy to think that you don’t have time for yourself. But I promise you, you can find time. Even if it’s just a few minutes here and there, it all adds up.

Over the last few months I’ve really prioritised finding time for self-care. With two kids under 3 (my youngest is currently 7 months) here’s how I squeeze in self-care.

  • Reading at night once the kids are asleep. It’s not every night but the nights I do read, I wish I did it more. (I just finished 'Bridge of Clay' by Markus Zursak and it's one of the best books I've read in a long time)

  • I’m trying to fake looking well rested with my skincare routine. It’s pretty quick in the morning (juggled between trying to get my toddler to stay still long enough to clean his teeth) but at night I take my time and end the day with double cleansing, serums, creams and oils.

  • I get dressed in proper clothes everyday. I feel so much better wearing a dress or jeans, rather than trackies. (These are my staples when it comes to breastfeeding friendly clothes).

  • I also recently bought new undies and replaced my maternity bras that were falling apart after over 3 years of wear. Who doesn't feel good when they've got nice underwear on?

  • Leaving the house every day. I can’t be the only one who goes stir crazy sitting at home all the time. Some days we just go down to the shops, but as often as we can, we head somewhere outdoors for fresh air and a boost of nature.

  • If I’m lucky, I enjoy some silence at nap time. There’s always so much to do when the boys are sleeping but some days I sit and just relax.

  • Eating well. Sure I eat chocolate most days but I know I feel better when I reach for fresh fruit and veggies more often than I reach for the cookie jar.

  • Keeping a to-do list. I feel more on top of things when I know what needs to be done.

  • As much as I want to stay up late and do all the things, again I feel so much better when I’m asleep (or at least in bed) by 10.30pm.

When I had a newborn and was adjusting to life with our newest addition there were a few things I made sure to do every single day so that I felt human - and not just like an exhausted milk-machine.

  1. I made sure I cleaned my teeth before lunch.

  2. I changed out of the clothes I slept in. Even just putting on a clean shirt and pair of leggings helped.

  3. I showered every night.

It really doesn't sound like much, but it was enough for me in those blurry, sleep-deprived, early days of welcoming a new baby to the family.

Self care doesn't have to take hours and hours. You don't have to do extravagant or expensive things to look after yourself. There's only two things you need to do to have an enjoyable self care routine, and that's consistency and consciousness.

Be consist in doing something small for yourself every day. And bring a conscious effort to it. (It's no good if you lay in bed at night and realise you completely forgot about yourself. You can set a reminder on your phone if you need it).

So mama, what are you going to do for yourself today?